Table of Contents

Chapter 1: Standing

5 Articles

1. How Do You Stand?
2. Why Are You Standing?
3. Why Stand?
4. Clarifying the Concept I
5. Clarifying the Concept II

Part I: MLC & Infidelity

33 Articles

Chapter 2: Midlife Crisis Overview

1. Overview
2. Midlife Crisis Stages
3. Contact Types
4. Contact Types: Clinging Boomerang
5. Monster
6. Depression Overview
7. Blind to Destruction
8. Accommodation

Chapter 3: Separation

1. MLC Phase 1: Separation
   
2. Escape & Avoid
3. Replay
4. Covert Depression
5. Stage Obsession

Chapters 4 and 5: Liminality, Rebirth and Reintegration

1. MLC Phase 2: Liminality
   
2. Transition is Liminal
3. When is Liminality?
4. MLC Phase 3: Rebirth & Integration: A Brief Introduction

Chapter 6: Turmoil & Chaos

1. The Shadow
2. Contrasexual Complex
3. Initiatory Experience
4. Tarnished Knight
5. Projection

Chapter 7: Understanding Infidelity

1. Introduction
2. Why Her?
3. In-fatuation Vs. In-Love
4. Science Vs. Love
5. Breaking Up is Hard
6. Love & Hate
7. Love & Indifference

Chapter 8: Affair & MLC Personality Dynamics

1. Jealousy & Envy
2. Emotional Blackmail
3. Consequences

Part II: Mirror-Work

49 Articles

Chapter 9: The Unconditionals

1. Grace
2. The Fairness of Grace
3. The Many Forms and Facets of Grace
4. Agapé
5. Forgiveness
6. Stages of Victim Development
7. Responsibility & the Betrayer

Chapter 10: The Assurances

1. Introduction
2. Hope
3. The Greeks
4. Relying on Hope and Enabling Hope
5. Hope as Incentive and Signs
6. False Hope
7. Hopelessness
8. Belief & Believe
9. Self and Your Spouse
10. Stories and Human Behavior
11. God/Higher Power
12. Faith
13. Trust
14. Deception Destroys Trust
15. Tidbits of Trust

Chapter 11: The Releasers

1. Introduction
2. Detach
3. Practical Applications to Detachment
4. Let-Go
5. Surrender
6. Acceptance
7. Accepting Sin
8. The Nature of Suffering
9. Wallow or Embrace?
10. Are Attached to Your Inner Victim/Suffering?

Chapter 12: Gratitude

1. Introduction
2. Count Your Blessings
3. Expectation & the Gratitude of Job
4. In Defense and Caution of Praising God

Chapter 13: Who Are You?

1. Who Are You?
2. Why Should I Work on Myself?
3. Fearing & Judging the Search
4. Your Present Life Story
5. Step Out of the Box
6. The Insistence on Maps

Chapter 14: Choose Joy

1. Choose Joy
2. Positive Mental Attitude
3. Be Infectious
4. Acting as If--Fake it 'Til You Make it
5. Happiness When
6. How Should I Act Around Him?
7. It Doesn't Matter What You Do...

Part III: Standing Actions

46 Articles

Chapter 15: Balancing Love

1. Validation
2. What's Bad?
3. Passive Resistance & Tough Love
4. Respect-Boundaries
5. The Space Beneath the Tightrope
6. When to Challenge
7. The Bitch
8. It's No Big Deal
9. The Doormat

Chapter 16: Progress

1. Midlife Crisis Takes TIME
2. Positive Signs
3. Dating
4. It Seems Hopeless; Is it Worth it?
5. Back-Limbo-Forward
6. The Lure of Change
7. Doubt & Confusion
8. Limbo

Chapter 17: Pursuit & Distance

1. Pursuit & Distance
2. Pursuit & Distance: Questions-Comments and Answers
3. Pursuit & Distance: Hoovering
4. Reassure or Instill Fear?
5. MLCer's Run, Even When the Alienator is Gone

Chapter 18: Limited Contact Levels

1. Limited Contact Levels
2. Dim & Dark
3. No Contact
4. Expectations, Control & Manipulation

Chapter 19: Cake-Eating

1. Cake-Eating
2. The Friendship Balance

Chapter 20: Planting Seeds to Build Trust

1. The Danger of Questions
2. Change Your Language
3. Communicating Your Stand
4. Denying Choice
5. Planting With Monster

Chapter 21: Betrayed: Dealing with Infidelity

1. Excuses
2. Excuses with Validity
3. I Don't Get It
4. Contacting the Alienator
5. The Affair Down
6. An Affair Down Alienator is an Advantage
7. What Makes the Alienator an Affair Down?
8. The Woman Scorned
9. The Woman Scorned Part II

Chapter 22: Coming & Going

1. Touch-n-Goes & Reconnection
2. Reconnection
3. Being Number One
4. The Lost Love
5. Wanting More

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